What Do I Want?

I am a free spirit. A wild woman, a maneater.  I require a strong alpha male, because I will suck all his power up if he is not strong enough to take me on.  I need someone who puts 100% trust in me, and knows no matter what I do, or how things may seem, or how flirtatious I may even be, my end game is him and at the end of the night I’m coming home to him. I’m not the cheating type.  I have been taken for a ride before, I have had my heart broken, and by no  means am I perfect.  I’ve even broke a few hearts.  But everyday is a winding road, and every heart broken is a new lesson learned, and new path carved.

If we become insecure, jealous people, it will never work out!  Jealousy is one of the most unattractive qualities to me.  From time to time, I have been known to be a jealous person.  But that was because the relationships foundations were tainted with trust issues and infidelity.  I will always try to conceal my jealousy.  As for insecurities, we must take it upon ourselves to make that special someone feel like they are the only one for you.   If they’re not, then why are you in it in the first place? Trust and communication is the foundation of a stable relationship. Take away that and it all crumbles from beneath you.  Remember when loyalty and being in love was enough?

If my husband, for example, came home from a trip and told me that he had slept with a hooker, but out of respect for me, was ridden with guilt, and had to tell me the truth, I’d be very upset.  However I’d probably forgive him.  I am after his soul, not his body.  Sex is merely physical.

“It’s not cheating unless you read poetry.”

I need someone who’s strong enough to let me be queen of my world, but still be the assertive male figure, an equal figure, not a dominating person, someone who will stand up to me  and tell me when I am wrong.  Someone I will respect, not someone I will walk all over.  Where do you draw the line without being my bitch?  I have had very subservient men in my life, but this bores me after a while.  I need someone who is going to accept me for who I am and not try to change me.  I never changed for anybody my entire life, why start now?  I am unique, and an acquired taste.  I am not for everybody.  You either love me, or you hate me.

Love is fleeting, we all wind in and out of love throughout a lifetime.  Some of us are afraid to fall in love again.  I like to jump into things head over heels.  Careless, some would say, but I say that I give 100% and I’m not afraid to have my heart broken.  Maybe I’m addicted to the extreme heights of the rushes of being in love, but I have learned to deal with the anguished lows of sad breakups, and dramatic heartbreaks as well.  Some people think I’m cold, because I can easily break up with someone on the opposite end…

“I’m not into this anymore, and I don’t want to take you for a ride.”  Some say that would be cold, being said to a guy utterly head over heels in love with you, but I call it honest.  Some people can’t handle the truth.  But I think the truth is far better than lies and confusing a person hurt with rejection.

Someday I will be loved.

Love Potions

A pheromone (from Greek  φέρω phero “to bear” + hormone from Greek ὁρμή – “impetus”) is a secreted or excreted chemical factor that triggers a social response in members of the same species. Pheromones are chemicals capable of acting outside the body of the secreting individual to impact the behavior of the receiving individual.

Have you ever been out at the club, and you look at a guy and before even asking his name, or opening your mouth to say hello, you think, “I am going to sleep with him.”  I think most people make up their minds about somebody, if they are going to sleep with them or not, the first time they lay eyes on them.  That’s why that sly grin just appeared on his face, as your eyes linger on eachother through the club.  Yes, I think physical appearance plays a role, and personality as well.  But sometimes we find ourselves magnetically attracted to someone.  Something that we can’t control.  And that my friends, is phermones.   I hate going to the gym and smelling the guy next to me sweating.  But when you’re rolling around in bed smelling “his stink” it’s a different smell, and you are attracted to it.  

Have you ever stood next to a lady at the counter who wore rancid perfume that smelled like your dead grandma?  Immediate turn off!  Something as simple as the smell of vanilla can especially trigger sexual arousal.  They say baby powder is a stimulant, but I despise the smell.  So I guess that everybody is different in what is attractive to them.  If you wear an unconventional perfume, that might be the strange scent that attracts “him.”Don’t wear cheap perfume ladies.

One fragrance or sexual attractant made up of 17 different scents has the property of a phermone. To be consistent the agent must have high quality scents to be a consistent sexual attractant. The scents have to be chosen carefully
and kept in the correct ratios. The results over a period of time have been outstanding. The idea is that not one scent can be identified  In fact knock off perfumers have tried to duplicate this product without success because of its complicated makeup. In addition the multi scented fragrance has powerful pheromones added to it making it more powerful than just pure pheromones alone.
I use to wear “Jadore” and often found men sniffing me trying to figure out my perfume.  I wear different perfumes depending on the what I am doing.  When I have a hot date, I wear a stronger perfume like Versacce Crystal, or Ja Dore.  I actually call Ja Dore my “Whore perfume.”  When I work at the club, my interest is to attract men, and I wear sexy scents like  Cool Waters or Michael Kors.  During the day I like to keep casual and wear lighter scents like Issey Miyaki or Sugar by Fresh.
Many mainstream perfumes are designed to smell appealing to the wearer, but make poor attractants.  The key is to wear a fragrance that “he/she” is not use to.  An unknown scent will keep them coming back to try to identify it, however with each sniff, the scent changes, making it hard for them to pinpoint, a mystery they find attractive.  Here is one test to determine if a fragrance has sexual attractant properties. Place a small amount of the fragrance on your wrist and smell it. Then extend your hand completely away from your nose. Then bring it back to your nose and smell it again. Do this several times. If the aroma smells different but at the same time is pleasant you may have a powerful sexual attractant.

The men’s cologne which usually increases a woman’s vaginal blood flow is a natural fresh scent,  other scents actually decreased a woman’s sexual response. What women found most appealing were very light scents, such as ocean breeze, kiwi, or a combination of baby powder and chocolate. The smell of a mans clean skin with a little sweat, combined with fresh fruity scents, was the strongest stimulant for women. Hirsch’s research also found that men’s penile blood flow increased up to forty percent from the scent of cinnamon buns, roast meat, cheese pizza, chocolate, vanilla or peppermint.”   Scientific studies show that they do know that scents stimulate, however, I believe everyone is different as to what scents are attractive to us, and that is what makes certain people attractive to certain people.  If the scent of strawberry pie can stimulate me, why can’t his “stink” stimulate me either way?

There are 3 stages of a relationship that change by the chemicals your body gives out.

Stage 1lust – ruled by testosterone and estrogen (the sexual hormones)

Stage 2attraction – controlled by dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin (those feel-good compounds)

Stage 3 attachment – initiated by oxytocin (aka: the hormone thought to create the bond between mother and child; known to play a role in trust, empathy and generosity)

I would suggest a potential 4th stage – jealousy – which has recently been linked to oxytocin as well.  And a potential 5th stage – infidelity – which has been linked to a genetic allele in some studies, and has also been linked to high levels of the hormone estradiol in women.
It’s worth it to buy that one bottle of $100 perfume.
Some of the best phermone colognes and perfumes out there:
for men: Alpha 7, Chikara, Edge Men’s, Nexus
for women: Pheromax, Primal Instinct, Scent of Eros

What I look for in a guy.

Things I look for in a guy…

. funny
. intelligent
. tattoos are sexy *but it’s not a prerequisite
. attractive
. takes care of himself
. this includes exercising and eating healthy
. has good style
. I ❤ metro guys not afraid to be pretty and have a good fashion sense ;D
. color is not an issue, but I’ve always been attracted to exotic men, not white guys
. confident and not the jealous type
. I ain’t sayin I’m a gold digger, but I ain’t messin with no broke nigga
. financially secure and independent
. not needy, and accepting of my busy schedule
. gotta be good in bed ;D

. neat, I can’t stand messy people
. fun to be around
. intellectual
. good with children, family oriented,
. honest
. share similar interests
. someone who respects my space and privacy. Just because I don’t call doesn’t mean I’m not interested. Or
just because I go out with you one time, doesn’t mean I am interested. SO STOP BLOWING UP MY PHONE. I’ll call if I want to hang out.
. don’t make it too easy, take your time.
. I like being romanced. 😉
. someone who shares my lifestyle, a lifestyle that’s not for everybody
. I’ve always been attracted to the shy guy. Shy and quiet, but confident. I am loud enough for the 2 of us. 😉
. a faithful person.
. Someone who’s okay with me stealing the spotlight.
. Trusting
. ambitious, and goal oriented
. I want perfection. Why settle for less? “Raise the bar”, a friend once told me.
. Someone I can grow with, someone who doesn’t bring me down, or encourage me to be unproductive.
. Someone as passionate as me.
. Someone who will tell me when I am wrong.
. Someone who knows how to communicate and work through things.  Nobody is perfect.
. Someone who knows what making love is really about.