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My Christmas List: Presents Under $100 For the Connoisseur


Every year I share my wish list with you.  Here it is… Everything available at Amazon.com

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Dean and Tyler Leash and Collar $19.76

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Coldbroo Coffee Maker (my roommate exploded mine when he turned the temperature down and everything froze over) 😦  My favorite! ❤ $40

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Water Lilies by Monet $69

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Simple to Spectacular: How to Take One Basic Recipe to Four Levels of Sophistication by Jean Georges $30

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Asian Flavors of Jean Georges $28

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Ball Mugs $10

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Alo Womens Luna Sweat Pants $78

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Alo Yoga Mesh Goddess Ribbed Leggings $79

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High Frequency Skin Care Machine $40

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Ultrasonic Skin Care Machine $55

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PS4 Charging Station $16

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Riedel Stemless Cabernet Glasses Set of 8 $56

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World Atlas of Wine $3

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White Nike Free RN Fly Knits $88

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Teal Cotton Oversized Knit Throw $45

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Neocutis Bio Gel Hyrdrogel $73

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Choices and Lifestyles


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Where do I begin? At 4 am at Kelly Oneils at the bottom of my 5th Johnny Black double? At the end of the worst relationship of my life? Leaving Vegas penniless 140 lbs and overweight? When is enough, enough? When did I decide to take my life into my own hands, charge forward and do the things I always talked about but managed to put on the back burner?

My life is a book, a movie Hollywood hit played by the deranged Angelina Jolie (the girl interrupted.) ok maybe not that dramatic… Because I found my way up.

If you must know a little bit about me. I ran away from home and spent most of my upbringing in juvenile detention where most of my misguided anger was directed at my parents. I had a child at the young age of 19, and have raised her alone, without a penny of child support for 12 years. After she was born, I got into the stripping industry. I don’t hide it, although most boyfriends would prefer I do, because you can learn great things from where I have been. Lesson one, you make the money, you don’t let the money make you. The majority of strippers have drug problems, daddy issues, or are single parents. Can you tell which category I fall into? I am the single parent going through school.

Although I do have a few stripper friends, I keep them to the minimal. Usually they are single parents, and we at least have that in common. I don’t judge if we go out and they decide to go to the bathroom to “powder their nose” they just know that I won’t be joining them. The same goes for me. While I’m prepping $1000 worth of clean food and they’re downing wine with their Bucca De Beppos, I made a choice, a lifestyle choice, that I want to be healthier. (;

Not only has training taught me discipline. I’ve learned to apply the concepts of success to all areas of my life. Create a goal, and charge forward, whether it be with school, a business plan or a weight loss goal. Last fall I found myself exhausted with 8 years in the night scene. In only 30 days I built a full time clientele personal training with my iHeart Fitness HI business. I charged forward without looking back and saw when I put my mind to it anything is possible.

2013 year was my first competition

at the Sting Rey classic 2013, I placed second place in tall bikini division.  I took 1st the following year.  I look forward to competing in 2017 and finally hitting the National circuit. Competing has kept me motivated. It gives me a reason to push beyond my limits. Find your why and stick to it. This isn’t a season. It’s a lifestyle change. After 3 years of living like this, I don’t see myself living any other way.

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Single Parenting through Difficult Times


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This whole postpartum experience has been immobilizing and has given me an opportunity to spend more time talking to Kai.  We use to be closer.  She is 11 and I’m trying to salvage our relationship before she becomes a teenager I don’t know. We are very close.

People asked me why I didn’t reach out to family.  Well, we’re very different people and their idea of support is imposing their mormon beliefs on me that this was for the best because I’m not married and whatever else they’re thinking.  Although I know their intentions are well, those are not the right words for me right now.

I noticed Kai’s math grades slipping and I had to believe it has to do with all the stress happening at home.  She has been skimming her reading instead of slowing down and internalizing.  It must be really an unhappy place for her to come home to right now.  I feel like I haven’t been doing enough for her.  And I want to take the opportunity to do focus my energies on her.  The last few months have been all about me and I feel I’ve been neglecting her needs emotionally.

Kai is a smart cookie and she has so much potential and talent.  She should be in sports, learning a foreign language, learning an instrument and art and digital media.  She said she wants to play chess.  I think that is a good idea for her cerebral side.  And chess is good to keep the brain sharp and for logic development.  We cleaned out the bookshelf yesterday and are going to get some new books for her to read.  It’s really simple how a little bit of attention and encouragement can positively effect a child’s development.

I read the power of a name report… Kai is an Aries, a leader natural and her name Carolanne implies great power.  My parent technique of being stern is negative for her growth and may hinder her natural leader tendencies.  I have to learn how to be encouraging instead of downing her talents.  As parents we have to learn what is the most conducive technique to hone their best potential.  Kai generally is a good kid, but when I caught her lying about wearing my $180 fly knits which were now stained in red dirt, she was grounded immediately.  She didn’t even fight me when I gave her “how could you do this to mommy when she’s going through a hard time” look.  She knew what she had done.  So I will keep her on grounding until the cleans them.

The most difficult thing I’ve been trying to figure out is how to get her to communicate.  When discussing hard subjects she changes the subjects and avoids it.  I have to drag out the hard emotions which usually end up in tears.  But it’s usually through impatient force I get her to tell me what’s really going on.  I’ve gotten her to open up on some subjects related to her father not being around, and her anger towards me for being a busy single mom, and now how she didn’t feel happy about her baby sister dying and how it was hard for her to help hold mommy down while I was sick and she was really unhappy.  It was a hard time for everyone.  I held her in my arms and hugged her and we hung out and played video games and did Nu Skin mud masks. (:

I’m still clueless what’s the positive way to get her to communicate with me.  She is so guarded..  very secretive.  I notice her friends talking about boys because she borrows my cell phone to text them or sometimes her conversations from my ipad connect to my iPhone.  I don’t even see anything she says about boys.  If she has an interest in boys, she is very guarded about them, unlike her gossipy friends.  It’s so cute how she is at that age now. (: I’m glad she is making more friends at school now.  I guess it’s time for that phone.

I’m going to put Kai in some kind of physical activities.  Either she can continue boxing and Muay Thai at UFC gym or swimming or sport of choice.  Have her learn a foreign language, possibly Japanese or Chinese.  She wants to play chess.  She doesn’t want to learn piano like her mom, but I’ll let her decide what kind of instrument she wants to play. And I will continue to help her hone her artistic skills.  I’m very proud she won an art contest and her art was displayed at the Academy Art Museum.  A little bit of attention can go a long way in giving a child what she needs.  And I feel so horrible I have neglected some of her needs these last few months while I had a complicated pregnancy.

This experience has waken me up to not take time for granted.  Time is precious.  I felt like I had screwed up with Kai.  I had her at a young age and didn’t share the enthusiasm I do now at turning her into a mini me.  I had wanted a baby so I could have a second chance to do it right and create something amazing, but I forgot that I already have a mini piccasso who still needs me. ❤

I do want to try have a baby again some time in the next 4 years before I turn 35.  It’ll be with complications but I know now what those issues are and how to face them.  I want another little girl. (: But for now I’ll work on my first masterpiece a little bit longer.

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Grief


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I found an old stash and lit a half burned joint as I listened to the slow sensual beats of Sade Pandora.

“Ooh hey
I’m trying to decide
Which way to go
Think I made a wrong turn
Back there somewhere

Didn’t cha know”
Eryka Badu
Maybe I should up it up a notch to some “Parra Cuva.”  All this sulking and crying isn’t for me.   No, I leave it on Sade.  Maybe this is exactly what I need right now, so I roll with it…
“My hands are tiedMy body bruised, she’s got me with
Nothing to win and
Nothing left to lose…

And you give yourself away.”
U2

I try to always see the lesson in every bad situation.  What did I get out of this?  Every tragic experience needs a positive perspective to heal and move on from.  I couldn’t find any positive thing out of being left pregnant by a cheating ex during a complicated pregnancy and then losing that baby.  I’m consumed with grief.

It took me an hour to make my bed this morning. I was so mentally exhausted from the miscarriage that when I came home from the hospital last night after I drank a glass of red wine, I fell asleep in my panties and hospital diaper w nothing but a blanket.  My hair was in a tangled messy bun and my eyes were puffy from crying.  This is not a sight I would want anyone to see me in.  The sheets and blanket and mattress cover I just got out of the dryer were in a ball next to me.

It felt like I was on an adrenaline high all week, anxious and in suspense of what is happening; took some pain killers on Saturday, when I hit my lowest; and dropped ecstasy and fell in love on Sunday when they pumped me full of hormones (oxytocin) post miscarriage; then took a xanax and smoked some weed on Monday to take away the hangover and unbreak your heart.  A new kind of personal low for me and I didn’t know how to feel because I know I’ve been in far worse situations that this and am thankful for what I do have, but it feels equally as bad but in a different kind of way.  A bittersweet kind of emptiness that leaves you scarily alone with your sobering thoughts.

As I slowly made my bed, I had to stop every 2 minutes to cry.  My house looks like a hurricane hit it.  It’ll give me something to do for a month; cleaning so good for the soul.  Clean and cry and think about Serah every step of the day.  I managed to clean out a couple bags today and clean off my  bedside counters.  The room was covered with clothes and junk from being on bed rest for the last two week, and Kai wrecking the room while I was in the hospital.

I think often; I’ve always felt it was appropriate to get out and move on from hard experiences instead of internalizing it and accepting that grief fully. Sitting around, crying and eating foods that make you fat, feeling guilty with every bite, but being so care free that you don’t care anymore.  I use to allow myself to get so care free and out of control and allow my spirit to be free; so free that it scared me into bringing myself back to a centered place before I got too lost out there.  I think this is why experimental drug use and living life on cruise control never harmed me spiritually.  I think it made me a better person; a better mother, friend, entrepreneur, lover, a more open minded individual.

When you learn to love you learn to give, and when you learn the joy that comes from giving to others, you become aware of the high sense of the power of love.  When doing good becomes an actual high we finally realize we are on the right track to obtaining that higher Nirvana we were blindly seeking for.  I now understand the power we possess to warm our own hearts and others with kindness.  When we are full we find a greater purpose in giving love to others in need of love. In learning to accept I have also learned to give.

“I want to cook you a soup that warms your soul.” Sade

I caught Kai, my 11 year old daughter stealing and lying.  She stole my $180 Fly Knits which are now stained with red dirt while I was in the hospital, then lied about it.  I was so mad I swear my uterus was going to fall out.  She knew she had been caught and she didn’t even talk back when I told her she was grounded from the computer and the ipad the rest of the week.  I gave her the look like “how could you do this to Mommy while she’s going through all of this” look and she already knew.

I don’t like grounding Kai that long.  Punishing kids long term is punishing myself because I have to uphold that grounding.  That’s punishing parents. :/  I want to make sure she gets the message.  When she comes home from school I’m going to make her toothbrush scrub those shoes till they are white like new because I took good care of those shoes, they are my favorite gym shoes.  Then we’re going to see what she has to say and depending if she is humbled or not will determine if she is off grounding.  I hope she takes the humble route, because grounded kids are bored kids. 😦

 

Ok Pandora is killing me.  I gotta get to a doctors appointment.

RIP angel Seraphim Ossa Manning

Sometimes pain is the road to transformation.  Grief is necessary to move forward and acceptance is necessary to grow.  

xoxo

A Piece of Me


I want to share something very personal and raw with you because it was good and it was bad, but it made me feel and it was real.

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I was 13 weeks when I got to the doctor and found out I was having a girl to my surprise.  A human being was growing in me, and a second trimester abortion is out of the picture at this point.  I know that I’ve wanted this for a long time, but right now wasn’t the best of time.  The father had been bullying me into getting an abortion.  He broke my heart when he told me that he was with his ex.  Not only did I have to deal with an unwanted pregnancy on my own, I had to deal with the heartbreak and the judgement from society as I continued on my second pregnancy without the father.  I felt womanized into something that was completely fake.  Basically EVERYTHING he had ever told me was a lie.  That he had zero sperm count, that he wanted a family, the he wanted to build a life with me.  Even the person he pretended to be which was the complete opposite of what he truly was come to be.  He offered zero help and even changed his phone number, then had a lawyer and his mother  call me threatening me with getting full custody if I didn’t abort the baby.  He couldn’t help me to doctors visits when I was on bed rest, and when my daughter called him to take me to the emergency room, he hung up.  I couldn’t believe that my judgement was so poor in to trust someone so spineless and selfish.  I never did anything to him except love him, even when he broke my heart, I was understanding and empathetic to his feelings.  I don’t like to make myself out to be a victim, but this is why I see no point in making yourself vulnerable.  People take advantage of weakness.  There is a world full of hurt out there, and I refuse to be one to continue the cycle.  I begin with healing myself and keeping to myself rather than selfishly hurt others because I have my own selfish pains to deal with.  At the end of the day it was simple.  He hates himself and he’s selfish and people who hurt others and gain joy from it only do so because of low self esteem.

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I was unemployed, I just got over 2 months of pertussis and bed rest (whooping cough) and had depleted my savings account and quit my job.  It was around the time of the Ikaika show in June that I got pregnant, my period was a week late every month so I assumed I wasn’t pregnant and this was just due to a low body fat percentage and 3 consecutive shows in a 6 week period.  I continued an aggressive training regiment and unhealthy supplement intake during the entire time.  Now concerned for the baby’s well being I had genetic and multiple ultrasounds done.  Everything looked fine to my surprise!  I grew attached and excited for baby to come.  Although at first she didn’t like the idea of sharing Mommy’s attention, Kai grew excited that she is going to have a new baby sister.  At week 19 I went in for a second ultrasound and QUAD blood genetic test.  They sent me straight to ER where I spent the night.  They told me my cervix was dilated and I had minor ruptured membranes.  The baby’s amniotic sac had moved 4 cm through the cervix and into the vagina and has slowly been leaking.  Doctors advised me I had 24-48 hours before she miscarried.  I had no pain and felt fine, so I didn’t put stock into what they said.  They urged me several times to have a medical abortion, but I ignored their advice because I didn’t want to play god.  I didn’t want to be the one to pull my baby out of me piece by piece alive, feeling everything.  I had hope.

I stayed in bed for two weeks.  My friend Jack constructed me a 2′ decline lift for my bed as my regular OB optimistically suggested.  This kept baby in.  During this time I started a go fund me page to help me pay bills.   I thank everyone for the generous amount of support I had received.  It was extremely hard for me to ask for help.  It’s hard for me to accept judgement from others which I knew was happening from some negative comments.  I discovered new friends, and discovered the fake ones and strengthened current ones. I had been falling behind and I was suppose to start my new job in 2 days waitressing part time at Outback which now wasn’t going to happen.  Daily pain started to kick in as my uterus got agitated.  Sips of wine would help stop contractions.  2 weeks went by and wine didn’t stop the contractions.  At 21 weeks and 2 days, I went into the ER because the contractions got stronger and closer apart and wine no longer was stopping them. Unlike two weeks ago, this time my amniotic fluid was low and my leaks were pink suggesting light bleeding.

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Sadly, they notified me that the quad test I had taken came back for a high probability of down syndrome.  In the middle of a contraction: what a terrible time it was for them to tell me.  Not a geneticyst, she was unable to give me more information.  My heart was broken.  To my understanding, this test is highly unprobbable.  I come to find out, leaking amniotic fluid can most likely trigger false positives due to elevated hormones in the test.  The only way to get a 99% confirmation is an amniocentesis, one of my most feared prenatal procedures, where they stick a long needle into your uterus to obtain fluid from the amniotic sac via your abdomen.

I was sedated with pain medication  which stopped my contractions, but was unable to sleep.  I lied in the dark with my eyes closed crying by myself.  I didn’t want her to go yet.  I had fought this hard to make it two weeks.  12 more days and she could make it.  I was determined to hold on.  At 3 am the doctor entered my room to tell me my white blood count was high insinuating infection which was most likely the uterine pain I was experiencing.  Chorioamnionitis is highly dangerous to the mother if the infection causes a fever and to the baby which if survived is at elevated risk for meningtis and brain damage. I didn’t have a fever so my logic was to not give up. Why is this happening to me?  I suddenly decided I have to stop.  I stopped fighting.  Doctor brought in suppositories to help with contractions and to my suprise I was already 7 cm dilated  and her head was already very low in delivery position.  Contractions weren’t coming.  Only one contraction came and I felt the need to push.  So I decide to help her end her suffering.  The contractions weren’t coming but she was small enough for me to push at 7 cm without epidural or contractions.  She was delivered in only minutes. Seraphim Ossa Manning was born at 5:30 am, on election day, November 08, 2016, 21 weeks and 2 days, 12.2 oz., 12 days too early for the lungs to be viable outside of the womb.  I now know that she wanted to go and this was gods will.  I was too stubborn holding on.  I was filled with bitersweet sadness, but also with peace knowing that this was gods way.  Instead of brutally ripping her pieces apart with an abortion, I had a calm labor, and I had a chance to kiss her forehead and hold her warm in my arms.  She didn’t appear to have anything physically wrong with her.  She did not appear to have down syndrome.  Her development was healthy.  My body couldn’t carry her any longer, and my health was at risk and it was my body’s natural way of telling me it’s time to let go.

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Don’t give up hope.  Don’t listen to a doctors first opinion.  Get a second.  My OBGYN took great comfort and hope in comparison to what the doctors had given me which was fear in the hospital.  The doctors had scared me so many times into giving up.  The infection hadn’t set in and I felt like I could’ve made 12 more days if I really held on.  I feel like she was going 2 weeks ago but with my stubbornness we held on.  The mind is a powerful thing and the body will follow.  I truly feel the only reason she held on was because I stayed in bed and refused to quit.  I’m trying to let go and accept that far worse things could’ve happened and this is for the best.  My heart is broken in 1000 pieces. I will never forget Serah.  And now I have to do my best to pick up my broken pieces.

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I will never be an advocate for abortion.  I want to acknowledge that when I had unprotected sex, I was aware of taking responsibility for my actions.  I am aware that I am fully capable of caring for a child no matter the circumstances.  I am a 31 year old single mother and this decision came with a mature choice and sense of responsibility.  I feel that many younger women are not mature enough to fully understand the implications of their actions.  It is too easy to go to an abortion clinic.  I have had an abortion in the past.  My younger political views strayed towards pro choice.  While today I am Pro Life personally for myself, however I am in the middle, as I believe politics should not have a say in this matter, and this controversial topic should not be used to sway election votes.   I also believe that this atrocity should not be funded with federal tax money.  Adoption is another option if you are not responsible or ready to take care of a child.  Juno is one of my favorite movies.  Her spirit through a bad situation is inspiring.  I find it disgusting that people find it so simple to erase a bad mistake by killing it.  Piece by piece, ripping a child out of a womb while it is still alive, feeling every pain.  I will deal with my actions accordingly and not make an innocent baby suffer because I made poor decisions.  Once you have an abortion you realize how monsterous it truly is.  I vowed never to do it again.

 Did you know that 45% of abortionees undergo multiple abortions.  I do not know which is more disturbing to me.   That 45% find it ok to take the easy way out and repeat their mistakes, or that the majority of these abortions were with women under 25 years of age and that over 70% of abortions are performed for convenience rather than medical reasons or rape and incest. I know only a women can make that decision for herself.  There are options.  Please don’t hurt your baby because you made a selfish decision.  Do the right thing.

WORLDWIDE

Number of abortions per year: approximately 42 million
Number of abortions per day: approximately 115,000

Where abortions occur:
83% of all abortions are obtained in developing countries and 17% occur in developed countries.

© Copyright 1996-2008, The Guttmacher Institute. (http://www.agi-usa.org)

UNITED STATES

Number of abortions per year: 1.21 million (2005)
Number of abortions per day: approximately 3,315

Who’s having abortions (age)?

50% of women obtaining abortions in the U.S. are younger than 25: women aged 20-24 obtain 33% of all abortions; teenagers obtain 17%; and girls under 15 account for 1.2%.

MORE FACTS http://www.abortionno.org/abortion-facts/

This whole experience has changed my life forever.  It has been a humbling experience not to take time with Kai for granted.  That all life is precious.  To not waste another day being unhappy because life is too short to throw away settling for complacency.  It has breathed life into a life that has been lacking for a long time.  

“When everything feels like the movies, yeah you bleed just to know you’re alive.” Goo Goo Dolls. Iris.


Please pray for Serah

You can follow the story and updates at
https://www.gofundme.com/prochoiceconflict

xoxo

Help Me Get to North Americans 2016


UPDATE 10.26.16 

I am pregnant and am currently not attending nationals this year.  But I still have lots of brownie ingredients made fresh to order.

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Thank you for supporting me on my journey to the IFBB Pro.  August 31st is the North American’s NPC National competition.  I am currently selling black bean, sugar free (sweetened with stevia), flour free, low carb, high protein, enhanced with whey isolate brownies to raise funds for nationals. #420 #madewithaloha #madewithlove.  Friends and family only. 808-377-0002 to support with an order. $10 each or $80 a pan (18 in a pan).

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Ten Birthday Presents for a Fit Girl


1. The FIT BIT Surge
$218

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2. WIRELESS Beats
$280
(in silver, gold or rose gold)

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3. ANYTHING Asic

Onitsuka Tiger Mexico 66 $79

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Ronnie Fieg Asics Gel Lyte V Rose Gold $320

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Gel Lyte III Gold $165

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4. Vitamix $449

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5. Brazilian LEGGINGS!
La Bella Mafia $69

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Zahler Black Butterfly $79

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Lululemons

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6. Who say’s you can’t have a fancy GUCCI gym bag?  $1,890

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7. Karl Lagerfelds Boxing Collection by Louis Vuitton

Ok I’m dreaming.

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8. a Spa Package at her Favorite Spa

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9. Go Pro $399

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10.  Hathaway Portable Volleyball Set  $70

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10 Valentines Gifts for the High Maintenance Girlfriend


Ok… I admit… I’m high maintenance.  I like nice things.  I like thoughtful things.  I like the best in quality.  You don’t have to spend $3000 on Louis Vuitton.  But chances are if you get me something, you better make sure it’s in good taste.  Be unconventional.

  1.  I don’t ever really care for flowers on Valentines Day.  But I recently saw these Maison des Fleurs flowers. . (;  The ones that come in the clear boxes are really cool too.  Traditionally I love long stemmed orchids.  But I couldn’t resist these because they are may favorite color! ❤tumblr_niy96iwzit1tf69j8o1_500

2. Maison Martin Margiele ‘Replica’ in “Beach Walk.”  ‘Replica’ exhibits uni-sex non-traditional perfume scents.  One of my favorite for men is “Jazz Club.”

 Normally $125. Only $75 HERE

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3. Fit Bit Surge.  My passion is sports.  A boyfriend once got me wireless you buds for Valentines Day because he thought I’d appreciate it more than jewelry.  He was partially right!  Depends what kind of jewelry. (:

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4. A spa day.  I got this a few years back after my boyfriend screwed up big time on Valentines Day.  It was a nice apology but I still don’t think it makes up for what he did. 😦  Heaven on Earth was my choice to go to. The Valentines package was $250 for a facial, massage and body scrub and wrap at Heaven on Earth.  The website is currently down, as to question if they are still open.  My other favorite spa’s are Ihilani.  However I am informed that the Marriott Koolina is to shut down and become a Four Seasons so I’m excited to see what they will have to offer because Four Season’s spa’s have always been my favorite.  Aulani has an amazing spa as well, but is extremely pricey in contrast to other two.  However, please note: Heaven on Earth does not have a full spa.  It’s a great spot however in downtown honolulu that provides quality services at a good price.  Only the best for a special girl.

Aulani Spa

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5. OK I don’t like fake jewelry but I did have a very nice cocktail ring from “Carat” once.  Everything set in genuine gold, and high quality scientifically produced replica diamonds you cannot tell the difference.   The value is there in the quality and beauty of the pieces without the high price of diamonds. Luxury without the luxury price. btw… Emeralds are my birthstone. (;

For the girl who likes something gaudy…
12 ct Verde Ring
420 GBP or $600 USD

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For the girl who likes something simple
INDIA seven bar rows pave
69 GBP or $100 USD

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Pink Hearts for You
.75-2 carats in white or yellow gold
$200-$240

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6. Lingerie

Agent provocateur is probably out of the budget.  Some good brands that are in a good price range are Elle Macphereson, Cosabella, Betsy Johnson and Pleasure State. Victoria Secret is OK, but get her something better than “OK,” get her something really special.

Check out this website one of my FAVORITES

http://nightowllingerie.com/

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Get Lacy for under $40

Nouvel Emoi (40% off)

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Turkish Crochet Lingerie by ‘Else”
$96

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Parah (Italian) Fine Lingerie

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7. Chocolate

All chocolate is not created equal.  If you go to the mall and pick up Godiva or Sees Candy that is all dandy and all, but if you go out and pick something that speaks her language, it shows you went out of your way to get something a little more thoughtful.  The high maintenance girl doesn’t want branded trendy spots.  She wants something unique.  It’ll cost the same too.

“Paintbox of Desire” @Chocolate Art House
13 British pounds
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Runz Sensual Chocolates $65

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Bond Street Chocolatiers $14

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Bond Street Dark Chocolate Buddha
$20

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8. A do-it-yourself project

Whether she wanted an accent wall painted, a mural, a day bed, a new coffee table or painting.  Make it yourself.  Homemade stuff is the best! Work within your skill level, don’t turn in an arts and craft project.  Youtube a DIY video.  Or find a piece of cheap furniture on craiglist and refurbish it by refinishing it or lacquering or painting it.  These presents mean the most to her!

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Daybed made with palettes

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9. A PUPPY!

I have puppy fever so this is the greatest gift you can give me lol.  It is a good test of what kind of parent you are going to be. (; I’m still waiting for a responsible time to get my Klee Kai.

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10. Write Her a Love Letter

Nothing is more sexy than when a man puts his feelings down into words.  I love my love letters and cards with substance more than any present I’ve ever received.  More than any floral arrangement, more than any diamonds or gold or Manolo Blahniks.  Those letters and cards are still in a box somewhere. (:

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xoxo

Food Prep without the Food Prep


I’ve been an NPC bikini competitor since 2013.  Over the years I’ve done my own experimenting with diet.  My conclusion is… they all work.  But at the end of the day I have to choose the one that is most appealing that I will stick to in the long run.  And for this reason, I picked the IIFYM macro diet.

When I first began to seek out professional help, I was provided with a 6 meal a day meal plan with clean eating, lots of lean proteins such as egg whites, white fish, chicken breast and carbohydrate sources such as sweet potato, brown rice and quinoa with a variety of vegetables.  This is the standard basic body builder diet.  I purchased a $150 6 pack bag to carry all my meals, followed by an $80 Iso Bag.  On Sunday’s I’d spend hours prepping all of my food and weighing them out into zip lock baggies for the week.  During the week I would prepare all my meals into tupperwares from ziplock baggies and carry around my meals in my 6 pack cooler bag.  Later on, I got tired of cleaning tupperwares and carrying around a bag so I simply threw ziplock bags into an iced cooler which became easier.  The novelty idea of having a bag to carry around my meals became annoying and cumbersome.  When friends wanted to go out to eat, I would always decline.  I had no life.  And after months of dieting I would have breaks and go on binge eating.  Basically, I gave myself a minor eating disorder because I was so obsessed with my food.  And the sad thing is that I didn’t ever enjoy it.

I’ve seen some fitness professionals posting about the kim chee ramen they eat daily, the chocolate cakes and pop tarts.  Their physiques were phenomenal.  I was skeptical and thought, that person has good genetics, they are lucky!  The same thing I have been accused of by skeptics.  The truth is, weight management is hard for a 30 year old mother and I too, regardless of genetics, have to watch what I eat.  I went from a 105 lbs McDonalds cheeseburger, fried kim chee  rice eating skin and bones to over 154 lbs over the years.  Although some of that is muscle, I will admit that there were times I allowed my weight to plummet out of control with my wine drinking and dining.  I LOVE fois grois, Buffalo Wild Wings and Angry Orchard Apple Cider, and while in Japan it was non stop sake, rice and tonkotsu pork ramen noodles.

So, I decided to give this macro diet a chance.  Basically you are allocated x amount of carbohydrates, x amount of protein, and x amount of fat per day.  It doesn’t matter if you eat 10 g. of fat from a serving of coconut oil, or if you get 10 g. of fat from a bowl of ice cream.  It will serve your physique and body the same.  Of course, there are more nutrients when it comes to coconut oil vs. ice cream, but if you are concerned about your physique then it doesn’t matter.

I am writing this blog to show you that you don’t have to prep 10 lbs of chicken and fish and eat boring.  I have incorporated a few of my favorite food items that are convenient. THERE IS NO COOKING in this meal plan (except maybe one piece of bacon).  It’s so easy my 10 year old  daughter can make these meals on her own.  At the end of the day, I am so much happier because I get to eat things I enjoy, it is at my convenience and I see results. Don’t believe me?  Check out my photos.

So here is a break down of MY macros on a HIGH CARB DAY.  Don’t try to copy mine, because everyone’s is different depending on their weight, height, age, goals and activity level.  I have 325 g of carbohydrates. 50 g of fat. between 135-155 g of protein depending on my current weight and how much muscle I want to maintain.

MACROS

FAT: 48
CARBS: 316
PROTEIN:  140
FIBER: 35

BREAKFAST

Protein Cheerios 1.5 C
Skim Milk 3/4 C
Greek 100 Cal Key Lime Yogurt Cup
1 T Barleans Omega Swirl Fish Oil-Key Lime

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LUNCH

Mission Low Carb Wrap
Spinach 2 C
Herb Roasted Turkey Breast (Colombus) 2 oz.
1 T Cabo Guacamole
1 T Island Salsa

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DINNER

1 C White Rice ( I just buy microwavable bowls)
Kohala Kim Chee 4 oz
2 Sheet Japanese Nori
2 oz Salmon Sashimi (or smoked salmon from Costco)
1 T Kikkoman Soy Sauce
1 T Wasabi

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SNACKS

Jack in the Box Spicy Chicken Sandwich with no mayo or cheese

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Protein Shake

1 C Silk Coconut Milk
2 C Spinach
2 oz Cucumber
4 oz Pineapple
1/2 scoop Oatmeal Cookie Lean Active 7 Protein Powder
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Protein Elvis Sandwhich Open Face

P28 Protein Bread 1 slice
1 T Nuts N More Toffee Protein Peanut Butter
1/2 T Creamy Clover Honey (Millers)
1/2 7″ banana sliced
1 piece of Bacon (Kirkland aka Costco)

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Yogurtland
4 oz Tart Froyo
1 oz Strawberries
1 oz Mochi

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As you can see I have fit all my macros in for the day and I have room for some desert, snacks, a little bit of guilty pleasures ie. Jack in the Box, bacon and you can play around with your proteins and vegetables.  I love cucumber kim chee and Japanese ocean salad.  Sesame Oil with some seaweed and chili flake is always good.  Sashimi, smoked salmon, fat free cottage cheese, eggs and bacon and spam musubis are some of my favorites to also incorporate.  Don’t starve yourself.  Eat and enjoy.

xoxo

I do meal plans for only $99 and I can incorporate your favorite food items.